The Dude Abides

Seriously, how far is religion supposed to be taken before it starts fucking with people’s lives?  Actually, it is more of a skewed version of religion, something I like to identify as ‘fucking ignorant’.  Hello readers, welcome back to my love shack, minus the love and shack parts.  This post I believe will be my most challenging to write, because it deals with putting people in their place.  Original, right?  It is when that person is your grandfather.  Alright, get ready for a double-shot of truth and correctness.  I’ll try not to get you too drunk, don’t want you passing out on account of ingesting so much right.  Enjoy.

Okee doke then, let me lay out the scenario that has caused such a fuss.  My aunt is a lesbian.  No need to beat around the bush, she does that for me. (Terrible joke I know, but I found it quite humorous, although perhaps in poor taste.)  In any case, she is easily the most level-headed person on my Dad’s side of the family, perhaps with the exception of my grandmother.  However, this type of lifestyle is NOT tolerated by that side of the family, to the point that her partner is not welcome to family functions.  These unspoken ‘rules’ are decided by my grandpa, and everybody just falls in line.  My grandma really isn’t in tune to this way of thinking, but keeps quiet to keep the peace.  It’s sad really.  Well, my aunt and her partner decided that they wanted to have a kid together.  So, before telling anybody on my Dad’s side (except her twin brother), she went to my Mom and us kids.  My mother, who has been separated from my Dad for two years, is her primary source.  She said that she knew that Mom had raised us with a good set of morals, and that we were understanding of the situation.  Let me pause a moment to give you my stance on the whole ordeal.

I am against gay marriage.  I am.  I think the lifestyle is immoral, and I really believe that it is a sin.  That being said, I really don’t care either way about them legalizing it.  If two people of the same gender want to get hitched, that is their cross to bear.  Also,  I DO believe that a gay couple should be able to have a kid.  Love of a child is not strictly bound to a man-woman relationship.  So, when Mom told me the situation, I was pretty cool with it.  It doesn’t bother me.  Here is what bothers me.

When my aunt finally decided to tell my grandpa, he was none too pleased.  In fact, he went so far as to say that the kid would not be treated as equal in the family and that the whole ordeal would be highly looked down upon.  In essence, he was pretty much disowning her and anything related to the matter.  HOW FUCKING DARE YOU.  WHERE THE FUCK DO YOU GET OFF SPEAKING SUCH IGNORANCE?  This is horseshit, fucking horseshit.  His stance is religion.  Whatever, that is no loving religion I know of, especially not Christianity.  He is doing a double of what the Bible says.  He is hating the sin AND the sinner, not just the sin itself.  To completely leave a child out of family recognition is like blaming the kid for your lack of tolerance.  He hasn’t even been born, and already the hate is being tossed at him.  Your love for your child should not diminish because she may be sinning in life.  If that is so, then we are fucked when it comes to getting into Heaven.  God’s love for us isn’t conditional, and neither should be your love for your children.

No, I resent his views and anybody’s views that are similar to his.  I am above that, smarter than that.  If my aunt happens to read this, know that you have my full support and love, and that your kid will receive no shunning of any kind from me.  Likewise, anybody who reads this and supports the idiot side, go fuck yourself.  I will forever consider you less than intelligent due to your obvious showcase of ignorance.

The shocking thing is, this isn’t the first time something of this nature has happened.  When we found out that I had an older sister (who my mother gave up for adoption, given the circumstances regarding the conception), everybody was extremely happy for the reunion.  Well, almost everybody.  My grandpa told my dad that it was good to find her, but that it was a chapter in Mom’s life that should be left closed.  In other words, don’t fucking see her ever again, because she isn’t a biological child of my dad.

Here is how it really is.  She is my mom’s child.  My brother, my younger sister, and myself are also my mom’s children.  That makes us ALL siblings, and I don’t give a flying fuck who our fathers are, we have common blood.  For somebody to try and deny the right of my mom to see her daughter after 20 years of wondering is flat out wrong.  It’s something I take offense to, and I will not tolerate.

Why do people try and stamp out love simply because it doesn’t add up to the customs of yester-year?  Because they know they’re losing control, and are lashing out in ridiculous ways in order to try and maintain that sense of ‘order’.

Don’t try and sell me on that religion stance bullshit.  They try and sell that ‘holier-than-thou’ crap, it serves to no end other than piss me off.  You aren’t showing love and compassion.  You aren’t walking in the path of Christ.  Are the ones you condemn so much worse than you that you have the right to isolate them from family and love.  Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.  No takers?  Good.  You’re fucking welcome.

There, I have spoken my piece without voicing my opinion vocally.  In other words, I have accomplished jack and shit in improving the viewpoints of the people I am so furious at.  Oh well, time keeps ticking away, unless you have a broken watch.  In that case, I hope you don’t rely on it to check somebody’s pulse.  Chance’s are you’ll get a false pronounced death.

That does it for me.  Lookie there, a half-decent rant and no lame poem.  I’m going back to days of old.  Sure is looking sexy again, my writing.  Quick update on my non-love life…Well, nevermind, nothing new to report.  HA!  Alright, I am leaving now.  Until next time America.  Take it easy.

The Dude

P.S.  I still love you.